Love the Bible! It’s important that we go to our assumed adversaries and ask their motives for their actions. Perceived situations aren’t always as they seem. This wise woman, because of her boldness was able to confront the problem because of her wisdom gained from the explanation on the other side and was able to protect her people by restoring peace to her city and maintain a peaceful relationship with King David. Remember, fact is always more important than our opinions. When possible, peace is always preferred over quarreling, but it requires we communicate.
“Then a wise woman called from the city, “Listen! Listen! Tell Joab, ‘Come here, that I may speak to you.'” And he came near her, and the woman said, “Are you Joab?” He answered, “I am.” Then she said to him, “Listen to the words of your servant.” And he answered, “I am listening.” Then she said, “They used to say in former times, ‘Let them but ask counsel at Abel,’ and so they settled a matter. I am one of those who are peaceable and faithful in Israel. You seek to destroy a city that is a mother in Israel. Why will you swallow up the heritage of the Lord?” Joab answered, “Far be it from me, far be it, that I should swallow up or destroy! That is not true. But a man of the hill country of Ephraim, called Sheba the son of Bichri, has lifted up his hand against King David. Give up him alone, and I will withdraw from the city.” And the woman said to Joab, “Behold, his head shall be thrown to you over the wall.” Then the woman went to all the people in her wisdom. And they cut off the head of Sheba the son of Bichri and threw it out to Joab. So he blew the trumpet, and they dispersed from the city, every man to his home. And Joab returned to Jerusalem to the king.” -2 Samuel 20:16-22 ESV