One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received was to keep short accounts. I’m sorry, I don’t remember who said it! Keeping short accounts with banks means you pay off your debt quickly. With people, you keep short accounts by addressing any hurts or hang-ups quickly. If someone hurts your feelings, tell them. The odds are pretty good they didn’t mean to, and there was some sort of miscommunication. If the fault is genuine, love and forgive and move on. Dwelling on the mistakes of others leads to bitterness and damages friendships. One note of caution for patterns of abuse: some people can be loved from a distance, and forgiveness doesn’t always mean trust. Who do you need to settle accounts with today? How might love cover wrongs? Who do you need to forgive today to stop bitterness from taking root?
Proverbs 17:9: “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”